{Mini Series} Patriarchy Detox Explained: Episode 2

Season #4 Episode #27 December 27, 2022

Welcome to episode 2 of our Mini-Series, Patriarchy Detox Explained.

In this episode, I talk about the first thing I learned, practiced and have now mastered in my journey detoxifying my internalized patriarchy. And that is a witchy alternative way for women to manage their energy and time…a way that’s based on the wisdom of natural cycles, including the magic that lives inside our incredible female bodies.

In this episode, I also invite soul-led sensitive mum entrepreneurs to join me in my upcoming signature zero cost training: How Sensitive Witchy Mums Can Make $2500 per month in their Soul-Led Business, Without Missing Pickups or School Plays which will take place under the power of the Full Moon on January 6 at 11am Eastern.

In this training, I'll walk you through:

— A simple mum-friendly business model for sensitive souls ready to generate consistent scalable $2.5K/ months, without missing out on pickups or school plays

— Even if you don't believe that you have what it takes, how you can reach a consistent $2.5K/ month revenue in a way that feels easeful and natural

— How to embrace soulpreneurship in a way that makes you a more present mama (and even better role model) for your littles.

You can register for this free training by going to https://www.alexandrahughes.com/freetraining

And if you're feeling called to explore how we can work together to up-level your business and bring your soul-led business dreams to life, I invite listeners to join me on a free Simple & Sacred strategy session. You can go ahead and schedule right here: https://calendly.com/sacredliving/soulpreneurincubator

The magic discount code for WitchHunt listeners who choose to join the intimate Simple & Sacred business incubator, with a discount of $333 is WITCHESRISE.

This code will be valid until January 20 2023.

Episode 3 is about detoxifying and cleansing our tendency to over function and overdo. Our addiction to busy-ness.

I’ll speak to the power of focus and keeping it (whatever "it" is), simple. And share with you 5 things I've done to help me navigate being me doing life in a do less, body-first way.

Hasta mañana my love,

Alex

Episode Transcript

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\f0\fs26 \cf0 Hello and welcome to episode 2 of the WitchHunt mini-series: patriarchy detox explained\
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Today I\'92m going to talk about the first thing I learned, practiced and have now mastered in my journey detoxifying my internalized patriarchy. \
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I\'92m going to introduce you to a witchy alternative way for women to manage their energy and time\'85a way that\'92s based on the wisdom of natural cycles, including the magic that lives inside our incredible female bodies. \
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But first, let\'92s talk a bit about the underlying, and unconsciously internalized assumptions about managing energy and time that are dominant today. \
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Or in other words, where I started from and where most find themselves in their relationship to time and energy management today. \
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Let\'92s begin by talking about time. \
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So the old way of perceiving time is linear and based on Newtonian physics. This understanding of time sees it as a constant unit that passes us by at the same pace, day in and day out. \
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And because it\'92s perceived this way, we\'92ve been encouraged to \'93make the most\'94 of the units of time that we have.\
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This has meant that the model of success looks like pushing through, working harder and harder, putting in more hours, putting in more effort, focusing on achievement above all else. \
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It\'92s positioned the accumulation of status and material wealth, and being productive as a way of showing our worth.\
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And there are
\f1\b so many rewards
\f0\b0 for living this way: everyone respects you when you\'92re busy. Plus \'97 at a subconscious level \'97 keeping super busy keeps uncomfortable emotions and thoughts at bay.\'a0\
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But what if we bring in Einstein\'92s theory of relativity and begin to consider time as relative.\
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When we do this and begin to explore our personal experience with time, we may observe that some days go by faster than others. And that time flies when you\'92re in the creative flow, enjoying yourself. \
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And that similarly, it crawls when you\'92re resisting doing what you\'92re doing because, well basically, there is no flow and you\'92re not enjoying what you\'92re doing. \
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This is where the concept of cyclical energy and time management comes in.\
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One of my mentors, Kate Northrup, says: \'93The way we work in our culture is as though we\'92re in a perpetual harvest. But anyone who\'92s grown anything in the Earth knows that this is impossible.\'94\
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She talks about how whether male or female, all bodies have cycles. And for women who bleed, these cycles take us through a literal or metaphorical preparation for fertilization and shedding each and every 28 or so days.\'a0\
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Yet, with the adoption of linear time as a concept, we\'92ve ignore this nature that lives within us \'97 this nature that we are. And instead, we ask our bodies to be in production mode all the time.\'a0\
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And when we push ourselves to work and produce and create and birth with no fallow time to rest, we burn out.\'a0\
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A quick summary.\
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\ls1\ilvl0\cf0 {\listtext 0. }Through a lens of embodied experience, time is NOT a constant unit that if increased, will boost productivity. Instead, the experience of time \'97 the speed at which it passes and the creative productivity \'97 is influenced by the energy we bring to it. \
{\listtext 0. }Neither energy nor time are linear. They are both cyclical. And the opportunities to birth a project, to take action, to assess and discern, to intuit and rest\'85these will all come around again. \
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So what did all of these mean for a sensitive witchy mum like me?\
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\f1\b \cf0 Well, one thing I\'92ve learned is that sensitive women nurturing children
\f0\b0 are especially susceptible to overwhelm and stress because of a) the impossible demands placed on our role as mothers and carers in the patriarchal society. \
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And b) because our sensitive nature means that our emotional resources are easily tapped. Our feelings are big already PLUS we feel other peoples\'92 feelings as if they\'92re our own.\'a0\
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Being like this and following the old Newtonian linear hustle and grind way of perceiving and managing energy and time leaves us feeling overwhelmed, frazzled and stressed out. \
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And then we end up showing up as exhausted, frustrated or short-tempered.\
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If you\'92re a mom, you know that the worst feeling is lying down at bed at night knowing you were distracted when you were with your kids, knowing they\'92re longing for your real and true presence \'97\'a0this is incredibly painful and I\'92d even say, shame-inducing, for sensitive mums. \
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I know this feeling all too well.\
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Fortunately, because our traditional economy systems aren\'92t set up to support our lives and our thriving,
\f1\b many women, especially mothers, are leaving the traditional workforce
\f0\b0 to start businesses, work freelance and earn income in nontraditional ways.\'a0\
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Unfortunately, what often happens is that even when we do choose an alternative pathway of navigating family and career, we continue to continue overworking as if we were still punching the clock for our employer because, consciously or not, we\'92ve internalized the values that underpin these
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And when our bodies ask us to rest, or our minds need a break, WE FEEL GUILTY.\
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We worry that we\'92re becoming lazy.\'a0\
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Like there\'92s something wrong with us.\
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These are internalized thoughts that support toxic feelings that hold us\'a0 back\
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And I can speak to you about them from my heart because what I\'92ve just explained is my story.\
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And from this place, I\'92ve seen many sensitive mums decide to give up on dreams they think will compete for time. \
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They end up thinking that they were naive trying to go for the impossible, and that in fact they have to choose between being the mother they\'92re committed to being or bringing their dream to life. \
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Because I happen to be a stubborn soul who\'92s soul calling has a very loud voice and \'97\'a0let\'92s be real here \'97 because I\'92ve had the privilege of a partner and a family who\'92s supported me in the pursuit of my calling, I\'92ve had the privilege of spending the last decade leaning into the possibility that I could be an incredible, present mother to my 3 beautiful children while also creating a successful company, having a strong sense of who I am, feeling in love with my husband, cultivating a strong connection to the feminine divine, and financing my dream life.\'a0\
What I\'92m proposing in this presentation involves trailblazing the creation of
\f2\i sensitive-mum-friendly
\f0\i0 models of navigating family and business that work for our own version of success and satisfaction.\'a0\
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I did this without success using the linear model of time for nearly a decade.\
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And the first pivotal shift I see as critical involves replacing the time and energy management system that was set-up for males-with-wives in an industrial complex, with one that harnesses the phases of your female body and cycle in a way that optimizes both your energy and time.\
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A quick run down.\
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Our female bodies have 4 phases which are energetically synonymous with the moon\'92s phases and the Earth\'92s seasons and any creative or life cycle, really.\
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We\'92re energetically and hormonally primed in each of these phases to do certain things.\
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We\'92re wired to rest, reflect, analyze and commune with our soul during our bleeding phase (winter)\
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We\'92re wired to brainstorm ideas, plan and strategize during our follicular phase (our spring)\
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We\'92re wired to express ourselves, get social, go to market and share during ovulation (our summer)\'a0\
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And we are primed to declutter, discern, emote and let stuff go during our luteal phase (our Autumn)\
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It\'92s easier and faster to do these activities at these times because we\'92re primed to to align our project cycles with what our body is best suited to do in a particular moment.\'a0\
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It means we do what we need to do faster and more efficiently.\
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It saves us time and energy.\
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And so cyclical time and energy management is about doing less and netting more.\'a0\
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But more than that it\'92s about finding as much ease as possible even as we do things that aren't\'92 all that easy.\'a0\
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It\'92s about finding places to coast \'97 the way birds do \'97\'a0when we can.\'a0\
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It\'92s about living and working in ways that make you resilient for the long haul. It\'92s about sustainability and regeneration \'97 which to me means living and working in ways that will allow us and the planet to thrive indefinitely.\'a0\
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I love the Einstein quote: \'93We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.\'94\
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To which, Kate Northrup adds: \
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\'93We need to revolutionize the way we work. It\'92s no longer acceptable to work as though we don\'92t have bodies, as though we\'92re not a part of nature. \'93\
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If we are to expect a shift in our culture where the feminine is honored and where the systems shift to support life, we must start by honoring the feminine in our own bodies and in the Earth around us.\'a0\
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I know it may sound far fetched, but I promise you it works. And for me, along with the other key shifts I\'92m going to share with you, cyclical planning in my business has meant the difference between working late nights and weekends, to limiting my working hours to 20 each week.\'a0 \
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If you\'92re new to managing your energy and time cyclically, I have a free Guide to Cyclical Living that you can access if you visit {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://alexandrahughes.com/thecycle"}}{\fldrslt \cf2 http://alexandrahughes.com/thecycle}}\
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And if you do happen to be a sensitive mum with a soul-led business dream who\'92s got the vision but hasn\'92t yet taken action, or who has taken action but is feeling as though your stuck with a stagnating business revenue, consider yourself invited to my signature zero cost training that I call: How Sensitive Witchy Mums Can Make $2500 per month in their Soul-Led Business, Without Missing Pickups or School Plays. \
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\cf0 THIS FREE TRAINING WILL BE LED LIVE UNDER THE POWER OF THE FULL MOON, ON JANUARY 6 AT 11AM EASTERN, AND IN IT I\'92LL WALK YOU THROUGH:\
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\cf0 \'97 \'a0A simple mum-friendly business model for sensitive souls ready to generate consistent scalable $2.5K/ months, without missing out on pickups or school plays\
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\'97 Even if you don't believe that you have what it takes, how you can reach a consistent $2.5K/ month revenue in a way that feels easeful and natural\
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\'97 How to embrace soulpreneurship\'a0in a way that makes you a more present mama (and even better role model) for your littles \
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\cf0 \ul \ulc0 You can register for this free training by going to {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://alexandrahughes.com/freetraining"}}{\fldrslt \cf2 \ulc2 alexandrahughes.com/freetraining}} \ulnone \
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[I\'92m also offering Simple & Sacred strategy sessions to you if you\'92re ready to explore how you can bring your soul-led business dreams to life. You will be invited to share your dreams and your struggles. And I\'92ll share how I can help you overcome the challenges and make your dream business and lifestyle happen.\
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If you\'92re curious about joining an intimate business incubator that will support you to get your soul-led business off the ground in a way that honors your sensitive soul, witchy nature and human mom responsibilities, put this discount code in your pocket and get $333 off the cost of the program. The code is WITCHESRISE. ]\
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In our next Patriarchy Detox Explained Mini Series episode, I\'92ll be talking about detoxifying and cleansing our tendency to over function and overdo. Our addiction to busy-ness. \
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I\'92ll speak to the power of focus and keeping it (whatever IT is), simple. \
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And how the increasing weight and complexity of demands being placed on women today requires some MAJOR discernment, along with systems and structures of support \'97 including sisterhood. \
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How in this world of overstimulation and intensity do we do this? Listen in to find out.\
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{Mini Series} Patriarchy Detox Explained: Episode 2

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